Wednesday, January 30, 2013

November

Okay, if I'm going to start updating Lily's "baby book" again I want to go back and fill in some of the blanks.

So, here's the Reader's Digest condensed version of November...

A visit to the American Girl Doll Store

Lily and I went with her best friend (Q), her best friend's mother, grandmothers, and sister to the American Girl Doll Store for tea to celebrate Q's birthday.

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Lily is not much of a doll kind of girl. In fact, that's putting it mildly. Lily NEVER plays with dolls. Truth be told - Lily only has one doll. Aunt Patti gave Lily an American Girl doll named Ivy for her first Christmas. It's the only doll that has lasted in our house. All the other dolls have found their way into the Goodwill bag!

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The first time Q came to our house to play she was shocked and more than a little disappointed that Lily didn't have any baby dolls. Lily told Q she thought dolls were boring and then they went about playing with Lily's race cars and all was well with the world once again.

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When Lily's at Q's house they play with dolls, when Q's at our house they play with cars, trucks, and Calico Critters. I think it's what makes their friendship work so well. Q and U have enough in common to enjoy each other's company, but not so much that they get on each other's nerves.

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Q brought her American Girl doll to tea and Lily brought Ivy and they had an absolute blast!!

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They even had fun on the three and a half hour ride home. Yes, you read that correctly. It took us three and a half hours to get home from the store!!!

Want to know the best part? Q and U never once complained during the entire ride. Not once. They sang and laughed and told really awful knock-knock jokes and were sad to see their time together end. I was just happy to finally be near a bathroom!

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is normally my favorite holiday - this year - not so much. It was just so hard without Dad.

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I am so thankful Mary Beth is the matriarch of our family. She makes every event special and does an amazing job at making memories!

Our sweet girl had a great day. She's not crazy about the actual Thanksgiving meal...Lily would prefer spaghetti :^)...thank you very much...but hanging out at Aunt Baba's with her cousins is one of her favorite things to do!

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Oh, and eating chocolate dipped cheese curls and chocolate dipped Dorito's for dessert was another highlight. What kind of mother would allow their child to eat such a thing??

We discovered these little "delicacies" at a local candy shop and Tony couldn't wait to bring them to Thanksgiving Dinner. Honestly, the thought of these things makes me want to gag...but they went like hot cakes! As for me, I'll stick with apple pie for dessert!

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Nit Picking

Speaking of wanting to gag...during November I also got to experience what it feels like to be a mother chimpanzee. Not sure what I mean??? Well, I'll put it a bit more bluntly. Lily had lice. Yuck, yuck, and triple yuck!!! I shuddered just typing that. Now, go ahead and itch your head. I understand. Trust me.

As anyone who knows me well knows...I have issues - lots and lots of issues. Can I just tell you that picking nits out of my child's hair did very little to help with my issues? Very little. It's true.

Before our experience with those nasty little buggers (literally) I thought there were two childhood maladies that I couldn't handle - loose teeth and ticks. I've added a third item to the list and it's assumed the #1 position!

I'll stop here. So much for the Reader's Digest condensed version, huh?

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Mommy, Am I Black?

The title of this post...that...THAT...in a nutshell is the reason I've got to keep blogging. It's all these little moments that make up a life...my life...our lives...that I never want to forget.

The other morning during breakfast Lily asked me in all sincerity if she was black. Before I could answer she followed up with, "I know I'm not white, but I don't think I'm black either."

Stopped. Me. In. My. Tracks.

Lily has been learning about Martin Luther King, Jr. in school. At home we had had some wonderful and heart-breaking discussions about the Civil Rights movement, what precipitated it, the impact of Martin Luther King, Jr., and how very far we still have to go.

If you want your heart laid bare - exposed and raw - try to explain such ugliness to an innocent 6 year old. I have tried desperately and will continue to try to keep the little in my little girl for as long as possible. But trying to explain things like racial discrimination, hatred, bigotry...it starts to peel away those layers of innocence. Bit by bit.

I believe my sweet girl was trying to figure out where her "oatmeal with brown sugar" colored skin fit within the Civil Rights movement. I did my best to answer her questions and have been asking myself questions ever since!

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